The grace in waiting

Waiting can be exciting, and it can be excruciatingly agonizing. It all depends on what you are waiting for. Some of us are waiting for a response, a job, a house, a family, health results, relationship etc. All of us will have experienced this process of waiting, and gone through the excitement and anxiety of waiting for a response or a result. I have had my share of waiting for a lot of things in my life, and it will never end. So, it is best to get used to it, find ways to manage it as waiting is part and parcel of life. I found this interesting, waiting in the Cambridge dictionary means: to allow time to go by, especially while staying in one place without doing very much, until someone comes, until something that you are expecting happens or until you can do something. Two words stood out for me - staying in one place without doing very much, or until you can do something.


So what is the cause and effect of not doing much while waiting and doing something while you wait.

Like in all things, waiting can be stressful. Imagine all the pent up stress within the body and mind, when it is not released it will drive you to the ground. You may feel low, depressed, anxious, upset, probably have physical issues with your digestive systems, have tensed upper body which may cause migraine, headache, etc. Waiting while not doing anything can be nerve wrecking, and you will probably run a hole in the carpet from walking up and down. (the motion in itself is doing something although not as helpful).

If however, you decide to do something while you wait, good for you! Even if it is talking to a friend, praying, going for a run to release the stress; doing something hopeful and positive, helps you to release the pent up energy from waiting. Changing your thoughts from "what ifs" to "no matter what", can help you while you wait and perhaps brace yourself for is to come.


No one likes waiting. So, lets look at why waiting is actually beneficial for us (as much as I do not like saying this).

  • Waiting helps to build on your excitement and give you a better reason to celebrate when you get the response you want because often times we forget to give ourselves a pat in the back and for believing in ourselves.

  • Waiting helps to build on our patience, and helps us to better able to manage change and situations around us calmly.

  • Waiting is much like a caterpillar that becomes a butterfly. The pushing motion that strengthens the butterfly’s wings, so that when it is ready to emerge, it is able to fly; if we were to slit open that cocoon prematurely, the butterfly would not be strong enough to fly. Waiting helps us to build our strength.

  • In waiting, you get to rest and renew your strength so that when the time comes, you have the capacity to fly!

  • Waiting helps you to be prepared. If you are waiting to buy a house, you need to save your finances and make sure you have everything covered, then you have to look for the house. All this is done while you wait for that perfect house that you want. If you are looking for the job you want, you prepare your resume, your skills and yourself for when that time comes. These are all done in the waiting. If you are waiting for a relationship to happen, take this time to work on yourself. Are you ready to love someone, are you even loving yourself, do you have your own strengths, self-belief, and confidence? Build on it, you can't depend on someone to give them to you, it will have an opposite effect instead.


Two things that are constant in our lives, change and the waiting game. We may or may not have the results / response we want, but we can always prepare, and strengthen our resilience, perseverance and build on our fortitude in the midst of waiting. Remember, waiting is not a bad thing, it is to build you up!